Today, rockers, porch swings, DVDs and the wounded feminine!
In my rounds at a retirement community, I entered the room of a 90 year old woman who was attempting to play a DVD of Tony Bennett. She held three remotes in her arthritic hands as she laughed at what she termed her" lack of a male technical brain ". Then she laughed again noting,"I really wouldn't want a male brain---except for things such as this!"
Somehow her DVD dilemma precipitated her reminiscing about easier summer memories filled with porch swings and rockers. She loved the porch swing of her old house where she raised her children. There were quiet moments and playful times when the children used blankets to cover the swings and imagine whatever adventure beckoned.
I remember rockers too.My grandmother would rock my baby cousins and croon a deep and rhythmic "Aaaah,Aaaah,Aaaah,Ah". Surely this was a primal Polish rendition of the heartbeat. I witnessed this and was delighted, even as a little 5 year old , of what I saw and felt.
But then my uncle, who by that time, owned the family home of my grandparents, decided to modernize.In addition to destroying the Victorian pocket doors, he replaced the wooden porch with cement and removed the rockers.When the cement dried, hard wicker bucket chairs with spindly metal legs with scrape-y feet appeared. ...even Harlow's monkeys would have been distressed. No more was my grandmother able to rock babies gently, quietly, soothingly.
To me , this modernization happening in Madmen times was a sign of the negative masculine ushering in "progress" while denigrating feminine feeling so necessary to nurturing life.Yes, my uncle was a good man of his time, nevertheless, on this, he cowed to his masculine energy at the cost of the mothering feminine.
Now neuroscience- the logic of it all- would favor the rockers, and my grandmother's soothing sounds and cuddling would be considered as what is best for brain development.What my grandmother intuited is being corroborated by science. Here it would seem, the Logos(masculine) of science confirms the importance of the Feminine principle. Grandmom, you rock!